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The Never Thinning Journey

1 Dec

Alex & Ani Eye of Horus Compass

Journey – an act of traveling from one place to another.

Life is one huge never thinning journey. Though, each path is different with varying results howbeit, romance, family, friendships, career or fitness we all are doing our best to figure the best path to our goals.

Before my boyfriend and I departed on our new journeys (another post for a fatter day) we bought each other these Alex & Ani bracelets to guide and protect us on our travels until we reach each other again.

The eye of Horus:The Egyptian god Horus representing protection and power. Warding off evil, preserving safety for eternity. The left eye is known as the eye of Thoth, keeper of hidden knowledge and mysteries.

The Compass: Providing guidance and navigation through life’s unexpected twists and turns. North represents home and infinite possibility. South embodies passion and the present. East signifies new beginnings and the future. West symbolizes emotion and the past. 

Here’s the skinny… I’ve taken some time off the site (let’s call it a cyber diet) because I have embarked on one of the biggest journeys in my life since going off to college 10 years ago; moving from Wichita, Kansas to San Francisco, California.

The goal of the ‘cyber diet’ was to reorganize, re-brand and relaunch Anorexic Escapades to make the site more presentable and accepting for all readers as well as, accommodate new opportunities that has been presented to me. Hugely, I didn’t think many people cared anymore and I was losing my voice, (th)inspiration & motivation as a writer so, I wanted to seek out a new point of view. Although, I’ve been receiving an overwhelming amount of comments, DM’s and emails asking where have I been showing that you guys really care about the content here. Hence the real reason for this weight-in.

Honestly, for the past four years I haven’t been completely happy with the results of my journey. I’ve had small triumphs along the way that I am very proud of but I knew they weren’t grand enough to push me further to were I aim to go. Even to the act of masking unhappiness with new (easily obtainable) goals in the hopes to curb my cravings of more adventure along my journey.

It’s funny how certain seemingly unrelated situations will jolt you into the position you are destine and desiring to be in. After, a tumultuous end of summer with my boyfriend I finally made the decision to make the leap into a new route in my life. Though, the landing may have been a bit rough here in San Francisco/Oakland I must say it’s the best thing that has happened to me.

When you aren’t happy with the most lithe thing in your life it creates road blocks in all avenues of your life, that’s why many of you are fat now. For me that dark and blocked off road is my career. I want to accomplish so much i.e., the success of this site, a men’s grooming book and to opening my own store as well as, becoming a successful commentator in the world of men’s grooming, fitness and fashion. I knew that I’ve reached my peak in Kansas and needed to branch off however, I was afraid to take the risk. Yes, I’m resourceful, resilient and coiffed a pretty nice resume over the years; not to mention I can string a couple of sentences together and hang a suit. But, I wasn’t sure if that was enough.

It wasn’t till I looked over my life thus far and come to the realization that in order to travel forward I must take a step forward (sounds simple huh). I’ve been in California for a bit over a month and though, it’s expensive, scary and exhausting; I’ve landed three cool jobs that all coincides with my career goals, finally found a cool “copacetic” place to reside and meeting some very radiant people. I love the creativity, music in the streets, Farmer’s Markets on every corners and overall organized chaos that this city brings. I’m not one hundred percent sure what tomorrow may bring but I have my schedule, a killer pair of trainers, fully load Clipper card and Google maps to help navigate through any unexpected detours.

Today’s skinny advice to you… Don’t keep asking God for blessings and not be willing to work. Success & happiness takes risk- get off the couch!

 

 

Just Try!

16 Sep

Baby Caturaṅga Daṇḍāsana
I originally took up yoga because I wanted a challenge. I did the gym, I went vegetarian even switch from running on the treadmill to running outdoors. Though, I got nice results from those changes they never really inspired or satisfied the sense of accomplishment and progress I needed. Only because I wasn’t trying anything new but just changing up what I was already doing.

The challenge I was looking for wasn’t just physical; it was internal as well. There are so many things I want from my life however, I talk myself out of following through with certain voyages because being conformable and only attempting what I know I can do is much more safer than going beyond my limit, failing or hurting something. Leaving me vulnerable, disappointed and feeling stupid for even trying.

Outside of the yoga studio this mediocre life of safety I built is a set of guarded rules I developed and safely followed in my romantic life, career and overall exploration of life. I grew up with the people responsible for me taking risk for me without considering me, that lead me down an unstable teenage life emotionally, economically, financially and mentally.

Therefore, the moment I became an adult and “in control” of my life I made the decision to do exactly what I am “supposed” to do and nothing more than I’m capable of to not live the life I was raised in.

Thinking I was putting myself in position of control I eventually deviated from the life plan I made because creating an obtainable life was better than risking an uncertain fulfilling life.

This restrictive way of thinking is prevalent in the way I date- only talking to guys for a limited time to not become dependent on their love or have to factor them in my life pass “whats your favorite color.” In my career- I would go after jobs that are easy to get that I knew I was overly qualified for having nothing to do with my true passion simply because they paid well. Even with the way I worked out; let’s not mention how I remained in Kansas for 10 years now beyond the four years of college I moved here for due to it being so cheap to live here and I wouldn’t have to struggle. On the outside I have the beautiful apartment, amazing resume, nice body, orderly finances and high confidence; on the inside I’ve been suffocating with a swelling feeling of worthlessness. With all the constant blessing obtained I know I’m happy but I’m still not going to risk a comfortable lifestyle on being happy.

Now my 30th birthday is approaching and I don’t know what was it all for! I feel like everything I have now and my need to control the every situation wasn’t worth my self-fulfillment.

As of last night I made a promise to myself to just try! It’s not about taking the risk, giving up control or coming up sort, it’s about taking yourself out of your comfort zone to get to your most desired goal.

Like with yoga, a year ago I could barely hold a plank for 5 breathes without being to-the-bone sore the next morning; cut to me today trying Baby Grasshopper for second time with ease upon the many new pose I’ve took a risk on learning all by just trying.

Life is scary, unsure and sometimes chaotic but what I’m learning over these last 10 years that it’s best to risk comfort than your happiness. Many of us aren’t living up to our full potential because chasing control is more important than living for fulfillment.

We don’t try because of what onlookers will think/say if we fall, or because we proclaimed one thing and decided to go for something else and don’t want to deal with “I told you so’s” or people constantly questioning our decisions. We fight ourselves daily to go with what we ought to do rather than what we want to do. The same will we muster up to do the “obtainable” thing we should use that drive to take a risk on whatever will make you genuinely happy. Because if you fail at least you tried and nothing beats a failure but a try.

From TODAY on forward, I’m going to just try. I’m over playing it safe or considering others’ opinions, I just want to be the best me for me.

I encouraging my readers to challenge yourself to try. Don’t just do what you know you can do, go beyond that and do something harder. Who knows you might end up with that firm butt and rock arm abs you keep praying to Skinny-Jesus for.

Now on to learning full Caturaṅga Daṇḍāsana!

Grubbing & Detoxing: My Review of #NYFWM

29 Jul

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After seven days, three cities and one week of being in bed sick exhausted readjusting to the climate change and avoiding unpacking I’m finally back to normal. Did I mentioned I haven’t had a workout since I left New York, my clothes are going to hate me.

This month I attended the first every standalone menswear fashion week in New York City #NYFWM. Presented by Amazon’s fashion sites– with additional support from Cadillac to showcase American men’s fashions which kicked off July 13-16 with the Spring/Summer 2016 collections at Skylight Clarkson Sq.

I had the time of my life and I ate it up like chocolate covered everything! It was everything I imagined and I’m saying may grace before every workout to Skinny-Jesus it will happen again next year!

As I’m mentally reviewing the events as I go through my camera my metabolism is everywhere just thinking about it all.

When I first learned that New Fashion Week: Men was even an idea being push around I was doing my daily thinspiration search over on FourPins.com. There after I Google alert anything referencing the event. Thanks to Monroe Steel over at FashionSteeleNYC.com for her pointers on how to request invites to shows. I obtained a show calendar and sent out requests to every designers’s PR firms to much success of 8 shows! Then, off to New York I went!

Devoured: As you read in my Robert Geller post it was my first show as I missed the first day of social events & presentations as I was making my way to New York. Here’s what I love about the overall event… there were three different platforms for which designers presented their collection per calendar scheduling. Along with offsite locations that other designers presented their collections as well. There was a very minimalist stylish homme lounge for viewers to rest in style between shows, station for bloggers & photographers to update their sites and the most brilliant thing ever- a charging station for devices, as well as a refreshment bar. I had the pleasure to meet some of my favorite menswear bloggers and Instagram-ers where we had some in-depth, exciting and inspiring downloading sessions over collection thoughts, site budgets and pitching post ideas to one another. And of course some fun photo-ops. What I really enjoyed about the experience was that it felt more like the first day of college than high school. There were no cliques, no pomp and circumstance and no one waiting to be “noticed,” everyone was open and eager to interact. There wasn’t even a huge hustle and bustle outside the venue, you wouldn’t even known there was something groundbreaking for American menswear happening until you reach the corner of Washington & Houston (HUE-STUN not HOUSE-STUN,) even the invites wasn’t fussy just QR Codes and the shows wasn’t over-packed nor overlapping. If a show was offsite it usually was a presentation so you had ample time to get there, view, get your images and get back to Skylight Clarkson. Everyone was laid back excited to meet one another and get an up close look of next year’s garment offerings and sport their current looks. Most of all, I met one of my ultimate thinspiration- Adonis Basso! He was charming, friendly and even told me I smelled nice. BTW, I’m starting a juice cleanse Saturday because I noticed he was drinking a fresh pressed juice.

Rather Be Spinning: The drawback or dilemma I had was that as much as I thought I was prepared with schedules, invites, and Google maps I wasn’t ready for the business of fashion week neither equipped with the proper footwear for the street of NYC. I was so enthralled with simply being in the same room with some of my favorite designers’ genius creations that I sometimes forgot my site and my goal; I forgot to take pictures/videos or get my picture taken. Being a blogger and wanting to gain more readership & partnerships- publicity is a must. Where some just came to stand outside to get snapped by for street style photographers, or stop for vlog interviews I was too busy reading my schedule and cutting out to meeting with other friends around the city. I did get snapped a few times but I hated every picture because either I wasn’t paying attention or I looked fat. Also, style of dress was very important, although I did manage a few interviews they weren’t published mainly because I opted for weather friendly garments over the Dandy look or Avant-garde. Speaking of interviews, I learned quickly that most people can “like” or “admire” something and know nothing about it. I met a few people who had no idea what they were talking about. It was funny and disappointing but they looked fabulous so…eh. Also, I learned that being social is very important as well as a follow-up question. Some people are so hung up on themselves or what they want people to think of them that they get stumped when you asked them a follow up question which shows their facade like a well calibrated BMI digital scale.

Meal Prepping: After attending my first week of shows I can now go into next year’s shows with a set of goals, more focus and a course of execution. Chiefly, this is a business and one that I want/am apart of, therefore I have to be more strategic and less of a fan. Ideally, I would want to go back with a team or such. There is so much to do in one day let alone a week. I want to be able to view the shows to give a concise reviews, get the posts out on time, update my social media consistently, curate my wardrobe properly, meet people and be seen for ample publicity. Ultimately, my goal for next year is to collaborate and represent some of my favorite and most used brands while there. More so creating creative content while enjoying what I love most. Oh, and be a bit more thin.

I enjoyed everything about my time in New York. I also learned that I can’t live there, I’m too spoiled here with free restrooms, grass and a car. Here’s to next year events, I will be slim and equipped with a fully loaded Metro-pass. If you only knew how much I spent on transportation I could have went shopping and copped everything at Kith NYC!

It’s Not Always How You Start But How You Finish The Race.

1 Jul

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Half the year is in your rear-view and so are your underachieved or abandoned New Year’s Resolutions. Welp, there goes your dreams and aspersions of flat abs, bigger bank account and a better outlook on life…or not?!

You may have been slacking thus far or haven’t quite met that goal weight but there is still time to jiggly your fat ass into shape. Not just your gut but those other pillars in your life; family, romance, fiances and career & spiritual.

Whatever you haven’t done but want to do before the year is out in the efforts of becoming a better you and successfully embarking on a heather lifestyle, there is more than of enough time to quit living your life like a sloth.

The energy you’ve spent putting things off can now go into actually getting it done.

First, stop comparing your failed triumphs to others’ successes, especially if you haven’t a clue to their struggle or course of action. Secondly, stop crying over spilled milk; so what you’re still fat and broke! That doesn’t mean you have to continue on that path- EFFORT is key. Lastly, cut out all the excuses, distracting side affairs and unconducive people. You are the only one living your life therefore you are the only responsible for the happenings that take place in it. You get what you put in but to put in work you have to get up.

Whenever I’m beating myself up about all the things I haven’t finished or procrastinating about, I weight all the dealings I have productively and successfully completed and turn those winnings into fuel to get started on events and ventures to complete as I move fourth in my road to prosperity.

It’s okay to use others as motivation but is destructive to use others to scrutinize yourself. I may not have done everything I’ve planned to do this year but I know I’m a better more successful person than I was last year.

“NO MATTER HOW SLOW YOU GO, YOU ARE STILL LAPPING THE PEOPLE ON THE COUCH.”

Start your race today!

#WOOTD Top; Nike Miler Running Singlet, a day-glow shirt that I don’t get tired of wearing. Compression Tights; Nike Pro Hypercool, I bought these two years ago but hardly wear because they are a bit to bright for yoga class but perfect for night running. Shoes; Nike Free 4.0 Flyknit, for sure my favorite shoe obviously. I wear these to work, around town and yoga.

#HumpDay! Choose To Have A Great Ass.

27 May

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It’s that day of the week that can either propel you successfully through to the weekend or you’re at your breaking point.

Listen, crap happens but that shouldn’t deviate your focus. We can choose to give up or push through. I choose to push through! My goal is to make the next day better than the last but the only way to achieve that is do as much today to make tomorrow that much easier. Because, in doing so you’ll have more time, energy and enthusiasm to take on the next day.

Today is that day in the middle of a work week (Wednesday); used in the context of climbing a proverbial hill to get through a tough week. So how do one get through a tough week? For me, when I feel like just saying’ F! it and order a pizza and stay in till Sunday, I simply choose to be productive.

Happiness, success and productive is a choice! In order to get over rough patches in life albeit, diet plateau, aching to skip a workout or others not holding up their end of the bargain or hearing the word “no” too many times in a day I and only I choose to move mentally and physically in a unproductive dark funk.

Whether I have huge triumphs or crapped up on some very important tasks I don’t end the day until I know I have done everything I could to turn the day around. No one can want more for you than you want for yourself therefore, it’s up to you to put your best foot forward to make the best out of each day.

The day isn’t over once you clock-out, I am always challenging myself to keep my momentum going pass Wednesday right beyond next week. Time don’t stop because I’m having a hard day and my goals are just going to be that much further away if I quit the day.

My mission this summer (daily) is to show other people how easy it is to boost our confidence and achieve our fitness/life goals.

Whether you’ve just trying to boost your current regime or out to create a better you, living your best self is the key to achieving and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Don’t let things out of your control dictate your mood that will ultimate derail your success.

Schedule, Follow Through and Reward are three tips I use daily to track my effort, create accountability and keep my attitude towards my fails in check.

Schedule: Make a list off all the the things you want to accomplish that day, organize whats important and create a timeline.

Follow Through: Don’t put anything off, its okay to ask for help and get off your butt. Why put off something for tomorrow when you could do it today and experience that euphoric feeling of accomplishment that will fuel you to do even more.

Reward: When staying up beat and productive gets more exhausting that the actual things you have to do, reward yourself for what you can do or have done before the day is over. Treat yourself to a night out, buy yourself something or pick a day to sleep in and do nothing.

I’ve type this all to say… get up off your butt and do your squats because no one has ever wrote a song about a small ass. Choose success and happiness don’t let someone else choose it for you. You’re where you are in life because of your own doing.

“Getting back to ME! 2.0”

28 Jan

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There’s no other diluted, delusional, renewed outlook on life mantra I have great disdain for other than the “going back to the old me” many mentally and emotionally stuck referrer to when looking for answers after an unsatisfactory chain of events.

I, like many of you get off track, loose focus or could have handle some situations better that have me questioning the person I’ve become. When I’m going through confusing or overwhelming current life happenings of course the past looks simpler and easier than things are now.

Nevertheless, this backwards way of thinking is the reason why many can’t find direction in life, chase unrealistic dreams and can’t seem to successfully deal with conflict or disappointment because they are still hiding from their mediocrity behind a wall of lies they’ve built as to why their past self was so “great.”

I’ve noticed that some people first response or resolution to dealing with a current life hurdle is to proclaim to go to/get back to the old “me” because somehow the person they have grown pass will better help them deal with the present.

I get it, people will try to hoodwink, bamboozle, run-a-muck or simply piss you off. However, in what parallel university will it be a forward move for you to set a goal of self-growth based on things/experiences you’ve already done, poorly? We should always be aiming to become better in general.

Worry less about who you use to be or how you would’ve dealt with people “if this was two years ago” but more so on using your current situation to reevaluate yourself to restructure a way of thinking and execution to propel you into a better you.

Pain, angst and disappointment is temporary that’s why the body forgets it so easily, also why we have a tendency to romanticize past life events as we look back trying to recapture those great moments of late night early morning past. Not realizing those great moments came with some tough times and bad mistake themselves.

Let’s take why you’re fat for example (YES, we are here again, it’s always about your gut) right now you’re annoyed with your current size, don’t know where to start on a fitness journey and as you look over pictures from high school or before the kids you realized you were rather stealth. The first inclining your delusional self-conscious tells you… man I need to get back to that body. Yes, you look slim in those pics, was in the gym 5 days a week and as you look down at your gut that person in the pictures seems to be a sexier livelier you.

However, if you go back mentally to that time of picture perfect physique you’ll your remember you HATED your body then. As well as, you didn’t have a job, family, relationship and a crammed schedule that kept you from the gym, eating crappy meals to save time and relationship issues that kept you up at night in the Krispy Kreme drive-thru. Even how you interact with people, looking for a career, or simply trying to find motivation to create purpose for your life, going back to a ghost of a person that didn’t have it all together in first place, hence the reason you’re at this personality crossroads isn’t a progressive solution but one that will forever keep you stuck.

Yes, you have many great qualities that you may have let go unused but, going forward shouldn’t require or inspire you to go back. Take all the great and horrible things from your past to map out a plan to get you out of your current rut and use your goal to build a better you with the motivation it will take to use that plan to execute your dreams.

Don’t be that old drunk that always reminiscing about what they use to have or what they use to be. Always be pushing forward take all you life happenings and let the be a point of reference of things you need to work, elevated to leave behind. Dwelling on the past albeit good or bad will not help your present or help you arrive at a progressive future. Whatever you want to fix or get a handle on in your life (physical, emotional, career, financially or relationship wise) isn’t about chasing a dream of delusional years past but creating a new you.

Be the YOU right now– 2.0!

“Sustaining Skinny:” My New Year’s Resolution.

5 Jan

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Five days late but while you were out planning on doing it, I already did it- Happy New Year! My only resolution this year is to be consistent.

Not just in one thing but every facet of my life; faith, fitness and finances. I want to keep the momentum I vowed on the first day of the year to propel me throughout the year that will ultimately translate into being a better person and more successful at all my endeavors.

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I could make a list of resolutions of trivial things that I want to change however, without consistency all those pseudo-goals will go in vain. I have been shaming myself and blaming all my shortcoming, missed opportunities and fails on procrastination. After pledging to excel pass that as last year’s resolution I realized procrastination wasn’t my problem or what was holding me back. Along with poor time management I fail to remain consistent once I’ve met a goal or seen results. I get things done and actually do all the things that come to my mind or “talk” about but I don’t do what it takes to maintain all the hard work and time I put into something. My inconsistency have left bridges uncrossed with friends & family, excess weight regained, sweats as my stationary uniform and budget forgone. Then, I’m back to being mentally and emotionally disheveled trying to find a starting place to get everything back on track.

To make a resolution and to be successful at upholding it is 100% being honest with yourself about your imperfections and weakness to pool your strengths. Only you know what you’re capable of therefore your plan for success should be foolproof. Life happens, that understandable but what are you doing to keep it from getting in the way of your aspirations? I’m beyond comparing myself to others, question my talents, wondering what if and limiting myself to circumstances. This time it’s all about doing the work so I can have everything I want.

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We can’t break ourselves down into singular categories when we are so much more and it will take all of our being to plan and accomplish what it is we desire. I sometimes can be too involved in the details of a problem to look at the situation as a whole: I become completely succumb in trying to figure out where I went wrong to get off track that I couldn’t see the forest for the trees; not realizing that it wasn’t something I done but something I didn’t continue to do.

No matter what keep at it; unless it’s eating, then give that up. Now that’s a real new year’s resolution.

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