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The Never Thinning Journey

1 Dec

Alex & Ani Eye of Horus Compass

Journey – an act of traveling from one place to another.

Life is one huge never thinning journey. Though, each path is different with varying results howbeit, romance, family, friendships, career or fitness we all are doing our best to figure the best path to our goals.

Before my boyfriend and I departed on our new journeys (another post for a fatter day) we bought each other these Alex & Ani bracelets to guide and protect us on our travels until we reach each other again.

The eye of Horus:The Egyptian god Horus representing protection and power. Warding off evil, preserving safety for eternity. The left eye is known as the eye of Thoth, keeper of hidden knowledge and mysteries.

The Compass: Providing guidance and navigation through life’s unexpected twists and turns. North represents home and infinite possibility. South embodies passion and the present. East signifies new beginnings and the future. West symbolizes emotion and the past. 

Here’s the skinny… I’ve taken some time off the site (let’s call it a cyber diet) because I have embarked on one of the biggest journeys in my life since going off to college 10 years ago; moving from Wichita, Kansas to San Francisco, California.

The goal of the ‘cyber diet’ was to reorganize, re-brand and relaunch Anorexic Escapades to make the site more presentable and accepting for all readers as well as, accommodate new opportunities that has been presented to me. Hugely, I didn’t think many people cared anymore and I was losing my voice, (th)inspiration & motivation as a writer so, I wanted to seek out a new point of view. Although, I’ve been receiving an overwhelming amount of comments, DM’s and emails asking where have I been showing that you guys really care about the content here. Hence the real reason for this weight-in.

Honestly, for the past four years I haven’t been completely happy with the results of my journey. I’ve had small triumphs along the way that I am very proud of but I knew they weren’t grand enough to push me further to were I aim to go. Even to the act of masking unhappiness with new (easily obtainable) goals in the hopes to curb my cravings of more adventure along my journey.

It’s funny how certain seemingly unrelated situations will jolt you into the position you are destine and desiring to be in. After, a tumultuous end of summer with my boyfriend I finally made the decision to make the leap into a new route in my life. Though, the landing may have been a bit rough here in San Francisco/Oakland I must say it’s the best thing that has happened to me.

When you aren’t happy with the most lithe thing in your life it creates road blocks in all avenues of your life, that’s why many of you are fat now. For me that dark and blocked off road is my career. I want to accomplish so much i.e., the success of this site, a men’s grooming book and to opening my own store as well as, becoming a successful commentator in the world of men’s grooming, fitness and fashion. I knew that I’ve reached my peak in Kansas and needed to branch off however, I was afraid to take the risk. Yes, I’m resourceful, resilient and coiffed a pretty nice resume over the years; not to mention I can string a couple of sentences together and hang a suit. But, I wasn’t sure if that was enough.

It wasn’t till I looked over my life thus far and come to the realization that in order to travel forward I must take a step forward (sounds simple huh). I’ve been in California for a bit over a month and though, it’s expensive, scary and exhausting; I’ve landed three cool jobs that all coincides with my career goals, finally found a cool “copacetic” place to reside and meeting some very radiant people. I love the creativity, music in the streets, Farmer’s Markets on every corners and overall organized chaos that this city brings. I’m not one hundred percent sure what tomorrow may bring but I have my schedule, a killer pair of trainers, fully load Clipper card and Google maps to help navigate through any unexpected detours.

Today’s skinny advice to you… Don’t keep asking God for blessings and not be willing to work. Success & happiness takes risk- get off the couch!

 

 

Just Try!

16 Sep

Baby Caturaṅga Daṇḍāsana
I originally took up yoga because I wanted a challenge. I did the gym, I went vegetarian even switch from running on the treadmill to running outdoors. Though, I got nice results from those changes they never really inspired or satisfied the sense of accomplishment and progress I needed. Only because I wasn’t trying anything new but just changing up what I was already doing.

The challenge I was looking for wasn’t just physical; it was internal as well. There are so many things I want from my life however, I talk myself out of following through with certain voyages because being conformable and only attempting what I know I can do is much more safer than going beyond my limit, failing or hurting something. Leaving me vulnerable, disappointed and feeling stupid for even trying.

Outside of the yoga studio this mediocre life of safety I built is a set of guarded rules I developed and safely followed in my romantic life, career and overall exploration of life. I grew up with the people responsible for me taking risk for me without considering me, that lead me down an unstable teenage life emotionally, economically, financially and mentally.

Therefore, the moment I became an adult and “in control” of my life I made the decision to do exactly what I am “supposed” to do and nothing more than I’m capable of to not live the life I was raised in.

Thinking I was putting myself in position of control I eventually deviated from the life plan I made because creating an obtainable life was better than risking an uncertain fulfilling life.

This restrictive way of thinking is prevalent in the way I date- only talking to guys for a limited time to not become dependent on their love or have to factor them in my life pass “whats your favorite color.” In my career- I would go after jobs that are easy to get that I knew I was overly qualified for having nothing to do with my true passion simply because they paid well. Even with the way I worked out; let’s not mention how I remained in Kansas for 10 years now beyond the four years of college I moved here for due to it being so cheap to live here and I wouldn’t have to struggle. On the outside I have the beautiful apartment, amazing resume, nice body, orderly finances and high confidence; on the inside I’ve been suffocating with a swelling feeling of worthlessness. With all the constant blessing obtained I know I’m happy but I’m still not going to risk a comfortable lifestyle on being happy.

Now my 30th birthday is approaching and I don’t know what was it all for! I feel like everything I have now and my need to control the every situation wasn’t worth my self-fulfillment.

As of last night I made a promise to myself to just try! It’s not about taking the risk, giving up control or coming up sort, it’s about taking yourself out of your comfort zone to get to your most desired goal.

Like with yoga, a year ago I could barely hold a plank for 5 breathes without being to-the-bone sore the next morning; cut to me today trying Baby Grasshopper for second time with ease upon the many new pose I’ve took a risk on learning all by just trying.

Life is scary, unsure and sometimes chaotic but what I’m learning over these last 10 years that it’s best to risk comfort than your happiness. Many of us aren’t living up to our full potential because chasing control is more important than living for fulfillment.

We don’t try because of what onlookers will think/say if we fall, or because we proclaimed one thing and decided to go for something else and don’t want to deal with “I told you so’s” or people constantly questioning our decisions. We fight ourselves daily to go with what we ought to do rather than what we want to do. The same will we muster up to do the “obtainable” thing we should use that drive to take a risk on whatever will make you genuinely happy. Because if you fail at least you tried and nothing beats a failure but a try.

From TODAY on forward, I’m going to just try. I’m over playing it safe or considering others’ opinions, I just want to be the best me for me.

I encouraging my readers to challenge yourself to try. Don’t just do what you know you can do, go beyond that and do something harder. Who knows you might end up with that firm butt and rock arm abs you keep praying to Skinny-Jesus for.

Now on to learning full Caturaṅga Daṇḍāsana!

Workout, Really? I Got Sh*T to Do?!

18 Aug

Fitness Hero (2)
Am I the only person that feels like a superhero when I can get a full body workout, run or fitness class in at the beginning or end of a busy day?

My downfall to fitness is TIME! Like many of you I have too much crap to do and going to the gym doesn’t seems appeasing to add to my to-do list when I’m instantly exhausted just constructing my daily list.

To achieve the your ideal body most fitness experts and nutritionist/dietitians will tell you its 70% diet and 30% fitness. However, that isn’t the case for me. I’m a vegetarian, I haven’t had a soda or bread since 2006, I workout 3-5x a week and yet I can’t get this midsection together to save my life. Still, when I have work, errands and other romantic/family obligation fitness is the first things cut or neglected when attempting to be superman at everything else in my life. What I have learned is that a fit lifestyle with desired results is 5% off time, 15% diet, 40% scheduling, 15% fitness and 25% commitment.

I’ve done posts about how important schedule is to your diet and workout routine. What I’ve also learned is though working out may seem more daunting than it really is, it actually will contribute to the productivity of your day and will help you to stay fit.

When I schedule my day just right and commit to everything on the schedule If I can get a workout in my day is put into overdrive. I’ve notice I have more energy to do the other tasks, I use my downtime wisely (less likely to take a break), my mind is more clear to focus (no forgetting things or having to redo things), I have motivation to make smarter eating/snack choices, as well as continue to commit to the fitness program.

It’s a ‘thinspiring’ and euphoric felling I get when I’m unconsciously/consistently/successfully staying the course of a fit life. I know how hard it is to fall down the rabbit hole when you’re not getting instantly results, when pressed for time opting for cheaper quick fattening food or putting off workouts to get other things done. But, with proper scheduling and commitment the rest will fall into place and will become second nature producing desired results.

If you’re not feeling energized, motivated or wish today just never happened- WORKOUT. It doesn’t have to be the gym; it could be a swimming, a bike ride, playing with the kids or calisthenics in the living-room.

The Nike slogan “Just Do It”, has a clearer meaning to me as far as fitness! Just like the other things we don’t want to do but have to just getting up and doing it is all it takes.

We all like that felling of completion, it’s empowering. Why not let your completion of a workout or having a successful day of crap-free food be your strength for future success, in all aspects of life?!

#WOOTD: Shirt & Tight: Nike Pro Combat MultiCamo Compression. Shorts: Nike Dri-Fit 5″ Distance Running.

It’s Not Always How You Start But How You Finish The Race.

1 Jul

Eka Pāda Ūrdhva Dhanurāsana
Half the year is in your rear-view and so are your underachieved or abandoned New Year’s Resolutions. Welp, there goes your dreams and aspersions of flat abs, bigger bank account and a better outlook on life…or not?!

You may have been slacking thus far or haven’t quite met that goal weight but there is still time to jiggly your fat ass into shape. Not just your gut but those other pillars in your life; family, romance, fiances and career & spiritual.

Whatever you haven’t done but want to do before the year is out in the efforts of becoming a better you and successfully embarking on a heather lifestyle, there is more than of enough time to quit living your life like a sloth.

The energy you’ve spent putting things off can now go into actually getting it done.

First, stop comparing your failed triumphs to others’ successes, especially if you haven’t a clue to their struggle or course of action. Secondly, stop crying over spilled milk; so what you’re still fat and broke! That doesn’t mean you have to continue on that path- EFFORT is key. Lastly, cut out all the excuses, distracting side affairs and unconducive people. You are the only one living your life therefore you are the only responsible for the happenings that take place in it. You get what you put in but to put in work you have to get up.

Whenever I’m beating myself up about all the things I haven’t finished or procrastinating about, I weight all the dealings I have productively and successfully completed and turn those winnings into fuel to get started on events and ventures to complete as I move fourth in my road to prosperity.

It’s okay to use others as motivation but is destructive to use others to scrutinize yourself. I may not have done everything I’ve planned to do this year but I know I’m a better more successful person than I was last year.

“NO MATTER HOW SLOW YOU GO, YOU ARE STILL LAPPING THE PEOPLE ON THE COUCH.”

Start your race today!

#WOOTD Top; Nike Miler Running Singlet, a day-glow shirt that I don’t get tired of wearing. Compression Tights; Nike Pro Hypercool, I bought these two years ago but hardly wear because they are a bit to bright for yoga class but perfect for night running. Shoes; Nike Free 4.0 Flyknit, for sure my favorite shoe obviously. I wear these to work, around town and yoga.

Mid-Month Thinspo.

15 Jun

prasarita padottanasana c

75 minute hot Asana yoga class completed, 2 hour 12 mile run finished and 30 minutes arms & abs calisthenics crushed! 2244 calories burned later… I’m hungry and sore but I look great! We’re halfway through the month of June, have you accomplished anything or dragging your lard ass till the 31st?

Today is officially the first day of rest of your forever delayed life. What I love about the mid-months are that they give me a chance to check in to see where I am in achieving my goals and to readjust whatever isn’t working.

Whether I’m behind or right on target, the mid-month checks and balances give me the thinpsiration to press on to the finish line or simply get my firm ass in gear ( I know you see it).

For example, in my yoga practice I want to be able to go into full Prasarita Padottanasana c (Wide Legged Forward Bend C) by Friday. I am able to add that to this month’s list of goals because I’m already at the mile goal, bill goal and posts goal! I order to keep momentum I can’t rest on my laurels.

There is only one way to get to where you desire to be; try! Need some thinspo to getting over the mid-month hump???

Sorry Crap You Should Stop Doing Right Now!

  1. Putting off things for tomorrow what you can do today.
  2. Hanging out with people without goals.
  3. Going to bed without a game plan for the next day.
  4. Not saying NO.
  5. Following someone else’s path you have not real idea of their course.
  6. Resisting the urge to push yourself.
  7. Refusing to ask for help.
  8. Not doing your research.
  9. Cheating!
  10. Looking at how hard something is before starting.
  11. Waiting for opportunities but create them.
  12. Being selfish.
  13. Immersing yourself so deep into other you forget your focus.

#WOOTD: Top; Nike Miler Running Singlet, I run outdoors do day-glow is a must to staying alive! Compression Shorts; Nike Pro 6 Hypercool Compression, the side vents are everything and they make butt look stellar. Shoes; Nike Free 4.0 Flyknit, if you don’t own a pair of these you don’t know what comfort is, they are great for running and outdoor yoga for balance.

Strive not Deprive

8 Jun

Adho Mukha Vrksasana
#WOOTD: Top; Nike Miler “RUN” Running Singlet, I needed a white top to match all my off-color bottoms plus it makes my skin look great. Tight; Nike Pro Hypercool Compression Woodland, compression have been my absolute fave to wear under my shorts to keep from chaffing and giggling. Shoes; Nike Solarsoft Moccasin, they are NOT running shoes but very good for outdoor yoga and a nice foot massage as you walk.

My Monday has been shot to crap… keep me away from food.

I’ve been thinpsired by the recent influx of social media posts from people beginning and finished challenges (Marathons, starting business, finishing school and giving up bad habits). Six months into the year I haven’t committed to a hard enough challenge yet.

The need for me to constantly challenge myself is because I am afraid of ruts or feeling like I’m not making the most of my talents, time or opportunity.

I believe you only know what you’re capable of if you’re willing to test and push yourself. When life happens good or bad you have no choice but to push yourself, but when it’s involuntary all the power resides in you.

Building yourself mentally, spiritually and physically is a lot like a training for a big game. Personal trainers and athletes push themselves to the max daily completely voluntary, because thorough the pain, discomfort, sacrifice and sweat their goal is on the other side.

Challenges give you purpose. I don’t like the idea of “killing time” or waiting for my big break, I must be active and prepared in creating my own destiny.

A challenge could be anything from working out everyday for five days or saving for a trip to an exotic location or simply committing to have a productive work day all week.

The idea of challenging yourself should derive deep in your mind and soul a wanting to be a better you.

Taking the easy route will sometimes get you to the finish line but it wont have you prepared for the reward.

What I’m getting at is… sometimes you have to test your dedication to see if you are as prepared/appreciative as you think you are for the success you desire.

#HumpDay! Choose To Have A Great Ass.

27 May

Hump Day (3)
It’s that day of the week that can either propel you successfully through to the weekend or you’re at your breaking point.

Listen, crap happens but that shouldn’t deviate your focus. We can choose to give up or push through. I choose to push through! My goal is to make the next day better than the last but the only way to achieve that is do as much today to make tomorrow that much easier. Because, in doing so you’ll have more time, energy and enthusiasm to take on the next day.

Today is that day in the middle of a work week (Wednesday); used in the context of climbing a proverbial hill to get through a tough week. So how do one get through a tough week? For me, when I feel like just saying’ F! it and order a pizza and stay in till Sunday, I simply choose to be productive.

Happiness, success and productive is a choice! In order to get over rough patches in life albeit, diet plateau, aching to skip a workout or others not holding up their end of the bargain or hearing the word “no” too many times in a day I and only I choose to move mentally and physically in a unproductive dark funk.

Whether I have huge triumphs or crapped up on some very important tasks I don’t end the day until I know I have done everything I could to turn the day around. No one can want more for you than you want for yourself therefore, it’s up to you to put your best foot forward to make the best out of each day.

The day isn’t over once you clock-out, I am always challenging myself to keep my momentum going pass Wednesday right beyond next week. Time don’t stop because I’m having a hard day and my goals are just going to be that much further away if I quit the day.

My mission this summer (daily) is to show other people how easy it is to boost our confidence and achieve our fitness/life goals.

Whether you’ve just trying to boost your current regime or out to create a better you, living your best self is the key to achieving and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Don’t let things out of your control dictate your mood that will ultimate derail your success.

Schedule, Follow Through and Reward are three tips I use daily to track my effort, create accountability and keep my attitude towards my fails in check.

Schedule: Make a list off all the the things you want to accomplish that day, organize whats important and create a timeline.

Follow Through: Don’t put anything off, its okay to ask for help and get off your butt. Why put off something for tomorrow when you could do it today and experience that euphoric feeling of accomplishment that will fuel you to do even more.

Reward: When staying up beat and productive gets more exhausting that the actual things you have to do, reward yourself for what you can do or have done before the day is over. Treat yourself to a night out, buy yourself something or pick a day to sleep in and do nothing.

I’ve type this all to say… get up off your butt and do your squats because no one has ever wrote a song about a small ass. Choose success and happiness don’t let someone else choose it for you. You’re where you are in life because of your own doing.

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