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The Never Thinning Journey

1 Dec

Alex & Ani Eye of Horus Compass

Journey – an act of traveling from one place to another.

Life is one huge never thinning journey. Though, each path is different with varying results howbeit, romance, family, friendships, career or fitness we all are doing our best to figure the best path to our goals.

Before my boyfriend and I departed on our new journeys (another post for a fatter day) we bought each other these Alex & Ani bracelets to guide and protect us on our travels until we reach each other again.

The eye of Horus:The Egyptian god Horus representing protection and power. Warding off evil, preserving safety for eternity. The left eye is known as the eye of Thoth, keeper of hidden knowledge and mysteries.

The Compass: Providing guidance and navigation through life’s unexpected twists and turns. North represents home and infinite possibility. South embodies passion and the present. East signifies new beginnings and the future. West symbolizes emotion and the past. 

Here’s the skinny… I’ve taken some time off the site (let’s call it a cyber diet) because I have embarked on one of the biggest journeys in my life since going off to college 10 years ago; moving from Wichita, Kansas to San Francisco, California.

The goal of the ‘cyber diet’ was to reorganize, re-brand and relaunch Anorexic Escapades to make the site more presentable and accepting for all readers as well as, accommodate new opportunities that has been presented to me. Hugely, I didn’t think many people cared anymore and I was losing my voice, (th)inspiration & motivation as a writer so, I wanted to seek out a new point of view. Although, I’ve been receiving an overwhelming amount of comments, DM’s and emails asking where have I been showing that you guys really care about the content here. Hence the real reason for this weight-in.

Honestly, for the past four years I haven’t been completely happy with the results of my journey. I’ve had small triumphs along the way that I am very proud of but I knew they weren’t grand enough to push me further to were I aim to go. Even to the act of masking unhappiness with new (easily obtainable) goals in the hopes to curb my cravings of more adventure along my journey.

It’s funny how certain seemingly unrelated situations will jolt you into the position you are destine and desiring to be in. After, a tumultuous end of summer with my boyfriend I finally made the decision to make the leap into a new route in my life. Though, the landing may have been a bit rough here in San Francisco/Oakland I must say it’s the best thing that has happened to me.

When you aren’t happy with the most lithe thing in your life it creates road blocks in all avenues of your life, that’s why many of you are fat now. For me that dark and blocked off road is my career. I want to accomplish so much i.e., the success of this site, a men’s grooming book and to opening my own store as well as, becoming a successful commentator in the world of men’s grooming, fitness and fashion. I knew that I’ve reached my peak in Kansas and needed to branch off however, I was afraid to take the risk. Yes, I’m resourceful, resilient and coiffed a pretty nice resume over the years; not to mention I can string a couple of sentences together and hang a suit. But, I wasn’t sure if that was enough.

It wasn’t till I looked over my life thus far and come to the realization that in order to travel forward I must take a step forward (sounds simple huh). I’ve been in California for a bit over a month and though, it’s expensive, scary and exhausting; I’ve landed three cool jobs that all coincides with my career goals, finally found a cool “copacetic” place to reside and meeting some very radiant people. I love the creativity, music in the streets, Farmer’s Markets on every corners and overall organized chaos that this city brings. I’m not one hundred percent sure what tomorrow may bring but I have my schedule, a killer pair of trainers, fully load Clipper card and Google maps to help navigate through any unexpected detours.

Today’s skinny advice to you… Don’t keep asking God for blessings and not be willing to work. Success & happiness takes risk- get off the couch!

 

 

Just Try!

16 Sep

Baby Caturaṅga Daṇḍāsana
I originally took up yoga because I wanted a challenge. I did the gym, I went vegetarian even switch from running on the treadmill to running outdoors. Though, I got nice results from those changes they never really inspired or satisfied the sense of accomplishment and progress I needed. Only because I wasn’t trying anything new but just changing up what I was already doing.

The challenge I was looking for wasn’t just physical; it was internal as well. There are so many things I want from my life however, I talk myself out of following through with certain voyages because being conformable and only attempting what I know I can do is much more safer than going beyond my limit, failing or hurting something. Leaving me vulnerable, disappointed and feeling stupid for even trying.

Outside of the yoga studio this mediocre life of safety I built is a set of guarded rules I developed and safely followed in my romantic life, career and overall exploration of life. I grew up with the people responsible for me taking risk for me without considering me, that lead me down an unstable teenage life emotionally, economically, financially and mentally.

Therefore, the moment I became an adult and “in control” of my life I made the decision to do exactly what I am “supposed” to do and nothing more than I’m capable of to not live the life I was raised in.

Thinking I was putting myself in position of control I eventually deviated from the life plan I made because creating an obtainable life was better than risking an uncertain fulfilling life.

This restrictive way of thinking is prevalent in the way I date- only talking to guys for a limited time to not become dependent on their love or have to factor them in my life pass “whats your favorite color.” In my career- I would go after jobs that are easy to get that I knew I was overly qualified for having nothing to do with my true passion simply because they paid well. Even with the way I worked out; let’s not mention how I remained in Kansas for 10 years now beyond the four years of college I moved here for due to it being so cheap to live here and I wouldn’t have to struggle. On the outside I have the beautiful apartment, amazing resume, nice body, orderly finances and high confidence; on the inside I’ve been suffocating with a swelling feeling of worthlessness. With all the constant blessing obtained I know I’m happy but I’m still not going to risk a comfortable lifestyle on being happy.

Now my 30th birthday is approaching and I don’t know what was it all for! I feel like everything I have now and my need to control the every situation wasn’t worth my self-fulfillment.

As of last night I made a promise to myself to just try! It’s not about taking the risk, giving up control or coming up sort, it’s about taking yourself out of your comfort zone to get to your most desired goal.

Like with yoga, a year ago I could barely hold a plank for 5 breathes without being to-the-bone sore the next morning; cut to me today trying Baby Grasshopper for second time with ease upon the many new pose I’ve took a risk on learning all by just trying.

Life is scary, unsure and sometimes chaotic but what I’m learning over these last 10 years that it’s best to risk comfort than your happiness. Many of us aren’t living up to our full potential because chasing control is more important than living for fulfillment.

We don’t try because of what onlookers will think/say if we fall, or because we proclaimed one thing and decided to go for something else and don’t want to deal with “I told you so’s” or people constantly questioning our decisions. We fight ourselves daily to go with what we ought to do rather than what we want to do. The same will we muster up to do the “obtainable” thing we should use that drive to take a risk on whatever will make you genuinely happy. Because if you fail at least you tried and nothing beats a failure but a try.

From TODAY on forward, I’m going to just try. I’m over playing it safe or considering others’ opinions, I just want to be the best me for me.

I encouraging my readers to challenge yourself to try. Don’t just do what you know you can do, go beyond that and do something harder. Who knows you might end up with that firm butt and rock arm abs you keep praying to Skinny-Jesus for.

Now on to learning full Caturaṅga Daṇḍāsana!

‘Accountability’ Is Why You Can’t See Your Abs.

20 Aug

Self.

Your body may not be as bad as you think, but you still can’t seem to reach your fitness goal. It may be because you’re doing it all alone.

One thing I use to hate was the “gym buddy” I never seen the use. More so because the gym was my ‘Me-Time’ and I didn’t want anyone slowing me down or skipping out on me.

That was until I started dating…

I’m always telling people that dating is your diet’s number one enemy. Only because between the date night (always at some restaurant), wanting to stay in under one another or simply picking a lazy or naturally slim/fit mate it usually leads to ditching the treadmill for a another date meal.

What sucks even more is when you know exactly everything you need to do but still fat. That’s why its important to turn your partner into your sparing buddy.

Sometimes what keep us from our fitness goal even with the gym membership, new workout clothes, successful trips to the grocery (passing the center aisles), latest workout gadgets and even the home workout equipment you bought for those pressed for time days is simple accountability.

By accountability I mean not just writing down what you ate or recording your scale weigh-ins but, being accountable to someone else. Albeit a trainer, online group or converting your lover into your gym buddy.

Having a gym buddy creates competition and consistence all resulting in peak abdominal perfection.

It’s hard doing it alone, trying to find motivation and having someone to brag with or look for answers to why something isn’t working. Having an extra person that will hold you accountable just may be what you need to get over that hump.

If getting a personal trainer is too expensive or an online group is too impersonal here are Five Ways to convert your lover, roommate or best friend into your gym buddy.

Grocery Shopping & Cooking: It can be difficult changing your diet when you have to consider the other person you’re living with. Instead of cooking two separate meals or giving into temptation make the grocery list together or do the shopping together. Cook more continuously for taste and diet needs without including the crap like condiments, fatty cooking oils, processed food or sugary drinks or anything bleached. Share the cooking responsibility by making those your date nights or hangout time. Even if you do end up at a restaurant suggest the healthiest option or restaurant.

Reward System: Competition is the best diet and every winner needs a trophy. Make fitness bets, celebrate a consistent healthy week with a night out, make the loser do an extra set or something you don’t want to do around the house. Winner gets a spa day or an extra rest day.

Prioritize Your Goals: It’s one thing to have a goal but what is your plan to achieve. Have your new gym buddy come up with effective ways you can use short terms goals to achieve the long-term goal. The thought of never having something again or going to the gym every day won’t entice your lazy sidekick to workout with you. Start by including them with small things, like a free buddy pass instead of them having to spend money, include them in fun adventurous that just so happen to be healthy. Show them the latest fitness apps and gadgets that will inspire them to want to check in and compete. Workout around their schedule to keep them more willing to go.

Expand Your Outings: Don’t limit yourself with your fitness or date nights. Change it up with opting for something other than a club or restaurant; hiking, kayaking, rock climbing, skiing, swimming, biking… there are so many possibilities! As well as, take a class, classes such as, yoga, spin, boxing, dance or boot-camp are the best way trick someone into work outing with you.

Share Fails: Track one another’s progress and be open about what your frustrations.

Here’s the thing about accountability, we can’t do it alone. Sometimes we need someone to push us. When you receive that extra push you’ll want to workout more and eat better. Next thing you know, After a month, you’ll start feeling some results. After two months, you’ll start noticing results. After three months, others will start noticing.

An whom better to notice is the person that was right there sweating along with you!?

Workout, Really? I Got Sh*T to Do?!

18 Aug

Fitness Hero (2)
Am I the only person that feels like a superhero when I can get a full body workout, run or fitness class in at the beginning or end of a busy day?

My downfall to fitness is TIME! Like many of you I have too much crap to do and going to the gym doesn’t seems appeasing to add to my to-do list when I’m instantly exhausted just constructing my daily list.

To achieve the your ideal body most fitness experts and nutritionist/dietitians will tell you its 70% diet and 30% fitness. However, that isn’t the case for me. I’m a vegetarian, I haven’t had a soda or bread since 2006, I workout 3-5x a week and yet I can’t get this midsection together to save my life. Still, when I have work, errands and other romantic/family obligation fitness is the first things cut or neglected when attempting to be superman at everything else in my life. What I have learned is that a fit lifestyle with desired results is 5% off time, 15% diet, 40% scheduling, 15% fitness and 25% commitment.

I’ve done posts about how important schedule is to your diet and workout routine. What I’ve also learned is though working out may seem more daunting than it really is, it actually will contribute to the productivity of your day and will help you to stay fit.

When I schedule my day just right and commit to everything on the schedule If I can get a workout in my day is put into overdrive. I’ve notice I have more energy to do the other tasks, I use my downtime wisely (less likely to take a break), my mind is more clear to focus (no forgetting things or having to redo things), I have motivation to make smarter eating/snack choices, as well as continue to commit to the fitness program.

It’s a ‘thinspiring’ and euphoric felling I get when I’m unconsciously/consistently/successfully staying the course of a fit life. I know how hard it is to fall down the rabbit hole when you’re not getting instantly results, when pressed for time opting for cheaper quick fattening food or putting off workouts to get other things done. But, with proper scheduling and commitment the rest will fall into place and will become second nature producing desired results.

If you’re not feeling energized, motivated or wish today just never happened- WORKOUT. It doesn’t have to be the gym; it could be a swimming, a bike ride, playing with the kids or calisthenics in the living-room.

The Nike slogan “Just Do It”, has a clearer meaning to me as far as fitness! Just like the other things we don’t want to do but have to just getting up and doing it is all it takes.

We all like that felling of completion, it’s empowering. Why not let your completion of a workout or having a successful day of crap-free food be your strength for future success, in all aspects of life?!

#WOOTD: Shirt & Tight: Nike Pro Combat MultiCamo Compression. Shorts: Nike Dri-Fit 5″ Distance Running.

Grubbing & Detoxing: My Review of #NYFWM

29 Jul

nyfwm (1)
After seven days, three cities and one week of being in bed sick exhausted readjusting to the climate change and avoiding unpacking I’m finally back to normal. Did I mentioned I haven’t had a workout since I left New York, my clothes are going to hate me.

This month I attended the first every standalone menswear fashion week in New York City #NYFWM. Presented by Amazon’s fashion sites– with additional support from Cadillac to showcase American men’s fashions which kicked off July 13-16 with the Spring/Summer 2016 collections at Skylight Clarkson Sq.

I had the time of my life and I ate it up like chocolate covered everything! It was everything I imagined and I’m saying may grace before every workout to Skinny-Jesus it will happen again next year!

As I’m mentally reviewing the events as I go through my camera my metabolism is everywhere just thinking about it all.

When I first learned that New Fashion Week: Men was even an idea being push around I was doing my daily thinspiration search over on FourPins.com. There after I Google alert anything referencing the event. Thanks to Monroe Steel over at FashionSteeleNYC.com for her pointers on how to request invites to shows. I obtained a show calendar and sent out requests to every designers’s PR firms to much success of 8 shows! Then, off to New York I went!

Devoured: As you read in my Robert Geller post it was my first show as I missed the first day of social events & presentations as I was making my way to New York. Here’s what I love about the overall event… there were three different platforms for which designers presented their collection per calendar scheduling. Along with offsite locations that other designers presented their collections as well. There was a very minimalist stylish homme lounge for viewers to rest in style between shows, station for bloggers & photographers to update their sites and the most brilliant thing ever- a charging station for devices, as well as a refreshment bar. I had the pleasure to meet some of my favorite menswear bloggers and Instagram-ers where we had some in-depth, exciting and inspiring downloading sessions over collection thoughts, site budgets and pitching post ideas to one another. And of course some fun photo-ops. What I really enjoyed about the experience was that it felt more like the first day of college than high school. There were no cliques, no pomp and circumstance and no one waiting to be “noticed,” everyone was open and eager to interact. There wasn’t even a huge hustle and bustle outside the venue, you wouldn’t even known there was something groundbreaking for American menswear happening until you reach the corner of Washington & Houston (HUE-STUN not HOUSE-STUN,) even the invites wasn’t fussy just QR Codes and the shows wasn’t over-packed nor overlapping. If a show was offsite it usually was a presentation so you had ample time to get there, view, get your images and get back to Skylight Clarkson. Everyone was laid back excited to meet one another and get an up close look of next year’s garment offerings and sport their current looks. Most of all, I met one of my ultimate thinspiration- Adonis Basso! He was charming, friendly and even told me I smelled nice. BTW, I’m starting a juice cleanse Saturday because I noticed he was drinking a fresh pressed juice.

Rather Be Spinning: The drawback or dilemma I had was that as much as I thought I was prepared with schedules, invites, and Google maps I wasn’t ready for the business of fashion week neither equipped with the proper footwear for the street of NYC. I was so enthralled with simply being in the same room with some of my favorite designers’ genius creations that I sometimes forgot my site and my goal; I forgot to take pictures/videos or get my picture taken. Being a blogger and wanting to gain more readership & partnerships- publicity is a must. Where some just came to stand outside to get snapped by for street style photographers, or stop for vlog interviews I was too busy reading my schedule and cutting out to meeting with other friends around the city. I did get snapped a few times but I hated every picture because either I wasn’t paying attention or I looked fat. Also, style of dress was very important, although I did manage a few interviews they weren’t published mainly because I opted for weather friendly garments over the Dandy look or Avant-garde. Speaking of interviews, I learned quickly that most people can “like” or “admire” something and know nothing about it. I met a few people who had no idea what they were talking about. It was funny and disappointing but they looked fabulous so…eh. Also, I learned that being social is very important as well as a follow-up question. Some people are so hung up on themselves or what they want people to think of them that they get stumped when you asked them a follow up question which shows their facade like a well calibrated BMI digital scale.

Meal Prepping: After attending my first week of shows I can now go into next year’s shows with a set of goals, more focus and a course of execution. Chiefly, this is a business and one that I want/am apart of, therefore I have to be more strategic and less of a fan. Ideally, I would want to go back with a team or such. There is so much to do in one day let alone a week. I want to be able to view the shows to give a concise reviews, get the posts out on time, update my social media consistently, curate my wardrobe properly, meet people and be seen for ample publicity. Ultimately, my goal for next year is to collaborate and represent some of my favorite and most used brands while there. More so creating creative content while enjoying what I love most. Oh, and be a bit more thin.

I enjoyed everything about my time in New York. I also learned that I can’t live there, I’m too spoiled here with free restrooms, grass and a car. Here’s to next year events, I will be slim and equipped with a fully loaded Metro-pass. If you only knew how much I spent on transportation I could have went shopping and copped everything at Kith NYC!

It’s Not Always How You Start But How You Finish The Race.

1 Jul

Eka Pāda Ūrdhva Dhanurāsana
Half the year is in your rear-view and so are your underachieved or abandoned New Year’s Resolutions. Welp, there goes your dreams and aspersions of flat abs, bigger bank account and a better outlook on life…or not?!

You may have been slacking thus far or haven’t quite met that goal weight but there is still time to jiggly your fat ass into shape. Not just your gut but those other pillars in your life; family, romance, fiances and career & spiritual.

Whatever you haven’t done but want to do before the year is out in the efforts of becoming a better you and successfully embarking on a heather lifestyle, there is more than of enough time to quit living your life like a sloth.

The energy you’ve spent putting things off can now go into actually getting it done.

First, stop comparing your failed triumphs to others’ successes, especially if you haven’t a clue to their struggle or course of action. Secondly, stop crying over spilled milk; so what you’re still fat and broke! That doesn’t mean you have to continue on that path- EFFORT is key. Lastly, cut out all the excuses, distracting side affairs and unconducive people. You are the only one living your life therefore you are the only responsible for the happenings that take place in it. You get what you put in but to put in work you have to get up.

Whenever I’m beating myself up about all the things I haven’t finished or procrastinating about, I weight all the dealings I have productively and successfully completed and turn those winnings into fuel to get started on events and ventures to complete as I move fourth in my road to prosperity.

It’s okay to use others as motivation but is destructive to use others to scrutinize yourself. I may not have done everything I’ve planned to do this year but I know I’m a better more successful person than I was last year.

“NO MATTER HOW SLOW YOU GO, YOU ARE STILL LAPPING THE PEOPLE ON THE COUCH.”

Start your race today!

#WOOTD Top; Nike Miler Running Singlet, a day-glow shirt that I don’t get tired of wearing. Compression Tights; Nike Pro Hypercool, I bought these two years ago but hardly wear because they are a bit to bright for yoga class but perfect for night running. Shoes; Nike Free 4.0 Flyknit, for sure my favorite shoe obviously. I wear these to work, around town and yoga.

Mid-Month Thinspo.

15 Jun

prasarita padottanasana c

75 minute hot Asana yoga class completed, 2 hour 12 mile run finished and 30 minutes arms & abs calisthenics crushed! 2244 calories burned later… I’m hungry and sore but I look great! We’re halfway through the month of June, have you accomplished anything or dragging your lard ass till the 31st?

Today is officially the first day of rest of your forever delayed life. What I love about the mid-months are that they give me a chance to check in to see where I am in achieving my goals and to readjust whatever isn’t working.

Whether I’m behind or right on target, the mid-month checks and balances give me the thinpsiration to press on to the finish line or simply get my firm ass in gear ( I know you see it).

For example, in my yoga practice I want to be able to go into full Prasarita Padottanasana c (Wide Legged Forward Bend C) by Friday. I am able to add that to this month’s list of goals because I’m already at the mile goal, bill goal and posts goal! I order to keep momentum I can’t rest on my laurels.

There is only one way to get to where you desire to be; try! Need some thinspo to getting over the mid-month hump???

Sorry Crap You Should Stop Doing Right Now!

  1. Putting off things for tomorrow what you can do today.
  2. Hanging out with people without goals.
  3. Going to bed without a game plan for the next day.
  4. Not saying NO.
  5. Following someone else’s path you have not real idea of their course.
  6. Resisting the urge to push yourself.
  7. Refusing to ask for help.
  8. Not doing your research.
  9. Cheating!
  10. Looking at how hard something is before starting.
  11. Waiting for opportunities but create them.
  12. Being selfish.
  13. Immersing yourself so deep into other you forget your focus.

#WOOTD: Top; Nike Miler Running Singlet, I run outdoors do day-glow is a must to staying alive! Compression Shorts; Nike Pro 6 Hypercool Compression, the side vents are everything and they make butt look stellar. Shoes; Nike Free 4.0 Flyknit, if you don’t own a pair of these you don’t know what comfort is, they are great for running and outdoor yoga for balance.

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